Deciding to move a parent with dementia to an assisted living community is never easy. Every parent cherishes their independence, but sometimes, staying solo just isn’t safe. Dementia loves to keep us guessing, with its roller-coaster of symptoms, making change feel like a surprise twist in the plot.
However, with careful planning and a compassionate approach, this transition can be smoother and less stressful for everyone involved. The key to moving a parent with dementia to assisted living lies in preparation, talking openly, and finding a community that matches your loved one. For those with dementia, memory care may be the preferred option.
Talking About Dementia
Dementia isn’t just one disease—it’s a mix of symptoms affecting memory, cognitive ability, and problem-solving. It happens when brain cells are damaged by various illnesses, such as Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, or even a stroke. While aging can bring about some cognitive decline, dementia isn’t the same thing as normal forgetfulness. It’s much more intense and impacts daily living.
Deciding when it’s time for assisted living can be challenging, but it’s about providing your loved one with the support they need. Consider this option if you notice signs like:
- Frequent forgetfulness that impacts their ability to live alone
- Difficulty with daily tasks
- Wandering
- Safety concerns like falls or unturned-off stoves
What Is Assisted Living?
Assisted living is an option for seniors who might need a little help with daily tasks like cooking, bathing, and managing their medications. It’s for those who don’t need full-time medical care but could use a hand with their day-to-day activities.
These vibrant communities have a team of caregivers ready to assist based on personalized care plans. Plus, medical professionals are available around the clock for any health needs or emergencies.
Residents enjoy the freedom of living in a community designed just for them, with the added bonus of help when needed. More than just care, these communities offer a chance for seniors to stay active and socialize, creating a lively and engaging environment.
For families, it’s reassuring to know your loved ones are well taken care of, with plenty of opportunities for medical attention and care.
Why You Should Choose Memory Care
Think of memory care as a specialized form of assisted living. While both provide a helping hand with daily activities, memory care provides services tailored for your loved ones with memory issues, like dementia or Alzheimer’s.
These communities are designed with safety and structure in mind. The staff are specially trained to handle the unique challenges that come with cognitive impairments, offering a deeper level of support.
Starting the Discussion
Moving to assisted living is a big deal, and like any major life change, it deserves a gentle touch. Start the conversation with your parent early, maybe even before there are any signs. You can all plan ahead so everyone knows what to do. When the time to talk about moving arrives, approach it gently. If they’re caught off guard, they might resist and feel like their independence is slipping away.
Giving both of you time to talk it through helps ease the adjustment and lets you make plans together. Plus, involving your parent in choosing their new home by visiting communities together can make them feel more at ease.
Create a checklist of must-have features, such as safety measures, staff qualifications, and available medical services. Include their preferences, because they’re embarking on a new adventure and fun in part of the journey! Look for a community with a strong social atmosphere and a range of engaging activities tailored to residents with dementia.
Remember, it’s not just about finding a new residence; it’s about finding a new home.
Making the Move
When transitioning a parent with dementia, timing is crucial. People with dementia can have good days and bad ones, so the right timing can greatly affect how well they settle in. Move when they’re most comfortable and alert, and steer clear of holidays or family events, as these might heighten anxiety or confusion.
As moving day approaches, try to keep your parent’s daily routine as steady as possible. While some disruptions are unavoidable, focus on what you can keep consistent. Bringing along favorite books, blankets, or photos can provide comfort and familiarity. A good community will support maintaining these routines.
Handling the actual move can be quite a task, and professional movers can be a lifesaver. If you’re doing it yourself, keep it organized and simple. Clearly label boxes and avoid rearranging furniture too much to prevent confusion. It’s a good idea to reach out to any family or friends who may be willing to support on moving day to make it as seamless as possible.
Helping Your Parent Settle In
You’ve done all the legwork to find the perfect place, packed up all the familiar trinkets, and helped your parent make the move. Now comes the part where you help them feel right at home.
First off, be patient. Adjusting to change takes time, especially when it involves a big life shift like this. Encourage participation in activities and social gatherings in the community. These events can help your parent build friendships and feel more connected to their new home. Help them personalize their new space with treasured items that stimulate memories or make them feel comfortable.
Remember to check in often, especially in those initial weeks. Familiar faces can do wonders for their comfort levels, so visit regularly and maintain open communication. Celebrate small wins and new friendships, and be there as a shoulder to lean on when things seem tough.
At the same time, let them stretch out and explore. It’s all about finding that balance between providing support and empowering independence—before you know it, your parent will be navigating this new chapter like a pro!
Welcome to the Home of Compassionate Care
Memory care is specially made for people with dementia, so you can trust that The Westmont at Short Pump knows what your parent needs to live life to the fullest. With our Inspiritás – Memory Care program, we help our residents fill their days with friendship and purpose, promoting cognitive support that focuses on holistic well-being.
Don’t take our word for it, contact us today to learn more about making the move to memory care.
